Counting His Coins

He knows your coffee order, shows up consistently, and treats you like you matter. But does his paycheck make him husband material—or are you worried about how his job title sounds at the dinner party? On this episode of **Oh, That’s Deep: Black Women Conversations**, Janine and Nicole get into money, dating standards, and what it really means to build a life together. First, the ladies catch up on Nicole’s recovery from laryngitis and her family’s Disney trip, while Janine celebrates her dad’s 86th birthday—and explains why his adventures at rehab have her more than ready to bring him home. Because, apparently, Dad is still charming the ladies! In **“What’s on Our Timeline?”**, the conversation turns to earnings among Black men and women and the expectations we bring to dating. Are six-figure standards realistic? Are we looking for financial responsibility, or a lifestyle that looks good on social media? From rising expenses to the pressure to keep up appearances, Janine and Nicole unpack the difference between making money, managing money, and finding someone willing to build with you. In **“Letters From Our Listeners,”** Natasha, a successful corporate attorney, wonders whether her relationship with Marcus, a thoughtful city bus driver, can go the distance. He has steady income, a pension, and no problem showing her love. But when marriage and children enter the conversation, she starts questioning his earning potential—and downplaying his career around her colleagues. Is she planning for their future, or letting other people’s opinions get in the way of a good man? The **“Motivational Moment”** draws from financial educator Dasha Kennedy of The Broke Black Girl, reminding us that asking about income, debt, and credit belongs in a relationship. The deeper question: can you have those conversations while respecting the person across the table? Listen in, share this episode with your group chat, and tell us: where does wanting financial security cross into judging someone by their paycheck? Until we meet again… **Pray. Work. Slay. And show off your melanated excellence.**