Episodes

Red Flags Everywhere In our opening chatter we talk about how our week has been. What’s on Our Timeline? Reesa Teesa is on our timeline and we’re gonna try to sum up a 52 part TikTok that is about 500 hours. Let’s Talk Through It Our first friend says she is in a nightmare situation of a marriage with a man she met online. She walked in on him wearing her bra, panties and her lace front wig! Our other letter comes from the fiance of a listener who says she isn't who she says she is and he hopes she and her co-workers that listen to the show all the time hears his letter and realizes that the jig is up. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanated Excellence!

In our opening chatter we talk about how our week has been. What’s on Our Timeline? Comes from babyghost115 on TikTok who says don’t date a broke man, however another content creator says that’s bad advice. He says don’t date an uneducated man. Let’s Talk Through It Our first friend says she really loves her man but feels like she is carrying the relationship. They work together and both started at the bottom but now she’s at the top and it’s causing a problem. Our other friend says her man is really starting to upset her. They’ve been together 5 years and aside from the fact that’s too long to wait for a ring, she doesn’t like the way he handles money. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanated Excellence!

In our opening chatter we talk about how our week has been. What’s on Our Timeline? Our Amazing friend Kim Allen is back! Let’s Talk Through It Kim follows up on the readings of Nicole and Janine from her last visit and gives them a look into what is in store for 2024. She also reads a few listeners that sent in some questions. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanated Excellence!

In our opening chatter we talk about how our week has been. What’s on Our Timeline? This week's timeline topic is inspired by Tara Brody. She's a Christian counselor who brings the Christianity and the Christian beliefs to therapy. We're going to discuss our relationships as grown adults with our parents.This is something that we all should listen to because we're all grown. Let’s Talk Through It Our first friend feels like her mother-in-law thinks her husband is her man! Our other friend says she has had enough of her mother-in-law. She is single-handedly ruining her household. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanated Excellence!

Nicole is back! And in our opening chatter we talk about how our week has been. What’s on Our Timeline? Is a post on DL Hughley’s IG from a prejudiced right wing post that asks if white men are the biggest threat to America why are there so many prominent black women dating them? Let’s Talk Through It Our first friend has a friend that is now a widow due to the passing of our husband of 12 years. She met him after a string of really abusive relationships with black men. Then she met her husband who was Caucasian and treated her like a queen. Now she feels she’s ready to date. So she attempted to hook her up with a really nice coworker of hers. He's tall, dark and handsome and well-established. So she set them up on a kind of blind date with him knowing what she looked like, but didn't show her any pictures.They met up for lunch and seemed to have a lot of fun based on the feedback from both of them. However, her friend said she couldn't date him because she can't bring herself to dat…

We’re super, super excited because this week, standing in for Nicole is Cheryl Jackson. What’s on Our Timeline? Is what has been on everyone’s timeline for the past few weeks, Kat Williams. Let’s Talk Through It. Our first friend started going to church in college. At some point she started dating the pastor's son. She was a bit wild and wasn't ready to settle down, however, he was focused on becoming assistant pastor. They eventually broke up and she moved back home and got married. Fast forward 10 years, her husband landed a great job in the city where she went to college. So they moved back and joined the church that she used to attend in college, where her ex was the assistant pastor. The chemistry was exactly where they left it and they ended up having an affair. A few months after the affair ended, she found out she was pregnant with her youngest daughter. While it dawned on her that the assistant pastor might be the father, she didn't bring it up because they agreed never to …

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? The timeline topic is brought to us by Aajahle on TikTok. Aajahle decided to go on social media asking us for advice, specifically about how we deal with our men and money.. Let’s Talk Through It Our first friend has been with her man for a little over a year. She's a nurse and he's a respiratory therapist. They moved in together a little over three months ago. He’s been carrying most of the bills, including his mortgage since it's his house. Last week, he found out that he would be taking a 12% pay cut at work and asked if she was in the financial position to help pay for more of the household bills. Deep down, she really doesn't think she should have to help offset his loss of income, especially since she’s not his wife. He's the man and he should figure out a way to make this happen, right? One of our other friends and her children's father and I have been together for 20 p…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? This week's timeline discussion comes from Diamond the Body via Tasha K, DL Hughley and our producer. This clip has been around just like the source. You’ll hear what we’re talking about. Let’s Talk Through It Our first friend divorced her husband 3 years ago. She's now dating 2 men, they both have similar builds and make about the same amount of money. One is a real estate agent and the other a sanitation supervisor. The problem is one of them she can’t see herself introducing to her friends and needs some quick advice. One of our other friends has been married to her husband for 6 years and feels she is outgrowing him. He’s been working for his current company for 4 years and hasn’t moved up and hasn’t applied for any new jobs. She is a Sr. member at her job and her husband no longer feels comfortable at her work events. She thinks this is causing them to grow apart and she is…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? This week's timeline discussion comes from the TrillAC on IG and he posts about a great woman’s effect on a man to level up. Let’s Talk Through It Our first friend and her fiance have been together 4 years. She is a nurse and he is a barber. She was recently promoted and now makes over 6 figures but is still motivated to grow more. She has been encouraging her fiance to get his own barber shop but he is comfortable where he is. She wants to know how she can motivate him to want more or is he just not the man for her. One of our other friends has been a listener since 2020 and a soror of Nicole. She has been dating a coworker at her company for some time now, he’s General Council and she is a VP for the company. He’s smart, well off and athletic. He seems too good to be true. She’s feeling a little inferior and asks if she should let him go to find someone more his speed. Until …

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? This week's inspiration comes from, friend in our head, Natalie Clarice with some great advice this cuffing season. Let’s Talk Through It Our first friend is asking for advice about her boyfriend of 1 year. He is constantly asking her to have his baby, mostly while they are being intimate. She is 35 and her best friend tells her it's hard being a single mother and she should wait until she is married. One of our other friends is engaged to her boyfriend of 15 years. They have been on and off over that time. The last off time was because she wanted kids and he was fine with the two he has. When we decided to be back on, I reiterated my desire to have a child and he said one more would be ok and he soon after proposed. So far no plans for the wedding have been made and he says we can be engaged forever. At 46 she wants our help on what she should do. Until we meet again. Pray! W…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? Comes from Black Millionaire on IG, where a woman is struggling with her teenage son. She's a single mom working hours upon hours a month to keep up with his lifestyle demands. Among them, $2500 a month for clothing. Let’s Talk Through It One of our friends is looking for some insight on her daughter. She is a great kid, straight A’s, plays sports and other activities. However she calls herself an Influencer, and to her credit she has over 22 thousand followers, but she’s not getting paid and mom has to fund the business. One of our other friends is engaged to her boyfriend of 4 years. His 24 year old daughter is about to be the demise of their relationship. Things got rocky when his daughter moved back home. She hasn’t been able to keep a steady job, she’s disrespectful to my fiancé and he won’t speak to her about how she is. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? Comes from Truth Hurts AKA Pheonix_Capricorn on TikTok. Janine shares his words for the SOFT men out there in his own words. Let’s Talk Through It One of our friends and her fiance are living together before they get married to test the waters before marriage. He said he is all in on gender roles, cooking, cleaning and taking out the trash. But that all halted when it came to paying the bills. He wants to split the bills 50/50. One of our other friends is unhappy in her 10 year marriage because her husband doesn’t make the money that he made when they first got married and wants to split the household bills 50/50. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanated Excellence!

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? Is a post that has Janine feeling some type of way, of an X tweet from Lil Babyy Ashleyy who is celebrating the support from her father of her Only Fans Page. Let’s Talk Through It One of our friends and her fiance got into a huge fight over his 22 year old daughter that lives with them. She is fine helping to support her dreams but he does not hold her accountable. The last straw is her asking for a car because she let one of her friends drive hers and they wrecked it. Insurance won’t pay because she was not driving. One of our other friends is at a moral crossroads. Her 2 year old son brought a note home from his preschool saying her son has a keen interest in dress up, keyword here dress. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned this week and be motivated for the week to come. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanated Excellence!

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? This week's timeline discussion comes from Indeskribeabull on IG who shares her Thanksgiving Rules for family as we head into the holiday season. Let’s Talk Through It One of our friends has been dating his girlfriend for 3 years now but has never taken her to any family functions. They recently had a heated discussion about it. He plans on proposing to her and can’t wait to start their own holiday traditions. However his family is a HOT A MESS! Should he tell her the details of his family situation and if so will it push her away. One of our other friends gets anxiety around the holidays. The family all get along until the holidays. She gives us the tea and asks for some help coping with her family at this time of the year. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned this week and be motivated for the week to come. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanate…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? This week's timeline discussion is a recent post on X from @realpg111 saying if a guy treats her like a princess he gets the Cat as a prize. Her post resurfaced a post on our timeline a year ago from @AjeboDanny who then posed the question, do women have anything else to offer when a man does something she likes? Giving up the Cat as a reward? Some men are looking for a different show of appreciation today. Let’s Talk Through It One of our friend’s husband is rationing the D and only giving it out as a reward for things she does. One of our other friends has been married for 20 years to her college sweetheart and has been a stay at home mom. Their 5 girls are grown and away at college and she is bored staying at home and would like to contribute more to the relationship than just pleasing her husband. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned this week and be motivated for the…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? This week's timeline is courtesy of Morgan Sandiego on TikTok. And it features a woman that says if you are not already in a committed relationship with good communication, respect and boundaries before you start nursing school don’t do it! Let’s Talk Through It One of our male friends is working to better himself on his job but it requires studying and a test. Well it seems as if his girlfriend is sabotaging his dreams by doing things to keep him from studying for the test that could change his career and life. One of our Birmingham friends has been dating her man for 5 years. She was ready to break it off when he started talking about marriage. Recently she started to focus on her dream of passing the bar and being an in-house counsel for a company and he started to complain that she was too focused on her dream and not enough on their relationship. Be sure to listen to hea…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? We find a woman that went on a first date with a man and would not get out of the car because he took her to the Cheesecake Factory. Let’s Talk Through It One of our friends met a really nice guy while dropping her child off at school. Conversations went well and they decided to go out on a date. It turns out it was a playdate as his suggestion was to take their kids to Chuck E Cheese. Our other friend has been dating a friend for a little while now. One day on a work from home day at his house, needing a pad to take some notes on a Zoom call, the pad she found had a list or “will’s and wont’s” for dating women. She fit in a few wills and quite a few wont’s. She wants to know how to approach him about his list. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned this week and be motivated for the week to come. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanated Excellen…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? Host of the Ratchet and Respectable podcast, Demitria Lucus posed the question to her listeners: do you have tracking notifications for your partner? We thought we’d take a shot at answering her question. Let’s Talk Through It One of our male friends has a problem with his wife of 4 years who has been calling him out on his whereabouts. One time he was out with coworkers having lunch and she popped up and another time was at his friend's girlfriend's house but he was at home. It turns out she had an air tag planted in his car. Our other friend found out that her husband had a tracker planted in her wallet for quite some time. She was pissed when she found out but he didn’t understand why. He said he was only trying to make sure she was safe. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned this week and be motivated for the week to come. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Sh…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? This week, Respectfully Justin is the focus of our timeline. And the comment section was “jumpin” with comments on his question on what would make you go raw with a partner. Let’s Talk Through It Our one friend is successful and knows what she wants. She is allergic to condoms so she keeps a steady and tight rotation of men so she can have her cake raw when she wants. The rawness has one guy catching feelings and he wants to bring her home to mom. Her sister thinks she is crazy for having multiple men and not using condoms and she wants to know what we think. Our other friend is 68 and getting a divorce from her husband. She and her husband remain friends but she is back on the market. She has 3 new male friends that she is active with, however she is not a fan of condoms and wants to know if it is bad to stop using them at this age. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? The Timeline finds a woman breaking off her engagement after she finds out that several years earlier her fiance had relations with his best friend. In the social post he is making the case it was a long time ago and he is not the same guy. Well she is not having it or him. Let’s Talk Through It We have letters from two of our friends. Our one friend needs help on how to tell her boyfriend after a morning of mimosas, shopping and having a little too much fun with one of her girlfriends she misses having sex with a woman. Our other friend has been married to her husband for 3 years. She wants to know how to tell him she is bisexual. While she hasn’t had sex with a woman she’s afraid he will think she’s cheating or untruthful about other things. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned this week and be motivated for the week to come. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And S…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? The Timeline finds us back at club Shay Shay for the second week in a row, to find Brittany Renner spilling tea on herself. Bring all ten fingers and ten toes for this one. Let’s Talk Through It we have letters from two of our friends. Our one friend met a nice guy at the grocery store and he had some good game. Fast forward, things got weird when we were on a date and two guys that she had previous separate intimate encounters with were in the same place. Things got even weirder when he had a party at his house and there were two other guys that she had separate intimate encounters with at the party. To make it worse they were friends of his. Now he wants to know how many guys she's been with and are any of them his friends as well? Our other friend is on her second marriage, and at 48 her husband thought it was a good idea to ask her how many men she has been with. Be sure to…

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? The Timeline this week has recurring timeline guests. Let’s Talk Through It we have letters from two of our friends. Our one friend is pregnant and tested positive for AIDS, and she wants to know if she should tell her husband. Our other friend has been married to her husband for 20 years, he has cheated a few times but told on himself before she found out. She recently found out through some digging that he has a child that he has been taking care of for 12 years. She wants to know if she should tell him she knows and welcome the child into their family. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned this week and be motivated for the week to come. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanated Excellence!

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? IG Hairstylist _Individualist Says dating in your 40s has a totally different standard than dating in your 20’s and 30’s and drops his list of expectations. Should you even have a list?. Let’s Talk Through It we have letters from two of our friends. Our one friend back on the dating grind let her new boo move in with her and her 10 year old daughter to find out he only works, sleeps and hangs out with his friends. Our other friend recently back on the dating scene rekindled a relationship after 20 years with a highschool boyfriend to find he is exactly the same after 20 years! We tie this all up in a pretty bow for you with a conversation with dating expert Monique Kelley. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned this week and be motivated for the week to come. Until we meet again. Pray! Work! Slay! And Show Off Your Melanated Excellence!

In our opening chatter we talk about what's been happening since we last recorded. What’s on Our Timeline? Comes from our friend in our head. He goes by Kenny Anse on the gram, but we know him as Kenny Williams, It's from a piece that he actually wrote for Insider's Business about the new standard of work and what we should be expecting and really just getting from these jobs that we work every day.. For Let’s Talk Through It, we have letters from two of our friends. Our first friend learned that the grass isn’t greener on the other side after leaving her job because it was boring for a job that gave her a lot more work for the same amount of money and now wants to ask her old boss for her old job back.. Our other friend retired from the military and became a franchisee of a food chain. While she loves being in charge of my own future is beginning to regret this decision because it's almost impossible to retain employees. Be sure to listen to hear what we learned this week and be m…